Falling in love feels a lot like drowning. You notice yourself falling deeper and you look around trying to find something to hold onto, to save yourself. You start to panic wondering what will happen, how you will make it out alive if you don’t find something to grasp soon. You’re losing yourself and it’s the scariest thing you’ve ever experienced.
If you’re lucky a hand reaches down and pulls you to shore, to the destination you’ve only dreamt of reaching.
Sometimes the person you jumped in after just watches you struggle to breathe until you finally are able to fling yourself back onto dry land, but not unchanged.
There is no way of knowing how the water will feel unless you jump. You can’t ever learn to swim without taking the risk. All you can do is close your eyes, reach out your hand, and hope for the best.
This isn’t something I like to talk about very much, but I think it’s important for some people to hear. I have struggled with depression on and off for my whole life. Becoming a single mom certainly did not help. I am very good at showing up to school and work with a big smile and cheery attitude, but when I am home there are days when I don’t want to move. Luckily school and kids have kept me very busy, but it just isn’t a good way to live.
In March my friend told me about the 21 Day Fix and I jumped right into it and it completely changed my life. Even though I was incredibly busy with school, clinicals, work, and taking care of my kids all by myself I made the time to get in my workouts every single day; sometimes that meant coming home from clinical at 11:30pm and working out before bed, but I got it done. There is something incredibly therapeutic about taking care of yourself. The sense of pride and accomplishment you get when you see your body changing before your eyes is amazing, and the sense of purpose coaching has given me is indescribable.
I recently let myself slip back into my old bad habits of skipping workouts and, not surprisingly, I found myself having no energy to get off the couch to do anything. Today I decided to kick my butt back into gear and do another round of the 21 day fix, and after finishing my first workout I feel like a totally different person. I will be forever grateful for my coach bringing this program into my life.
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I came across a quote today that hit me really hard: “It’s scary that one day we’re going to have to live without our mother or father or brother or husband or wife. Or that one day we’re going to have to walk this earth without our best friend by our side, or them without us. Appreciate your loved ones while you can, because none of us are going to be here forever.” I think sometimes we get so wrapped up in the day to day nonsense that we forget the big picture. You might befrustrated with your spouse today because they are nagging you for leaving a bunch of dirty dishes in the sink. You might be annoyed by your sibling because they made a rude joke about you at a family party. You might be angry with your parents for giving you unsolicited advice. But at the end of the day we need to stop and think about how lucky we are to still have those people in our lives. We aren’t guaranteed a single minute. Any day now you or someone you love could be diagnosed with a terminal illness, a natural disaster could strike, or some other horrible accident could occur, and do you want to be looking back regretting all the time you wasted complaining and avoiding the ones you loved?
I remember many times throughout my marriage when I would be lying in bed or sitting in the passenger seat of the car and I would look at my husband and realize that we had a limited amount of time together. When you are truly, madly, deeply in love it is scary to think that there will come a day when that side of the bed or seat in the car will be empty; when you won’t be able to run into your loved one’s arms when you need comforting. Anything less than eternity isn’t long enough when you’re with the love of your life. I would constantly do the math, “Well if we are 24 and if we live to 100 that would give us 76 more years together.” And after doing that math I would recognize the slim chance of us both making it to 100 and I would feel a rush of sadness and I would squeeze his hand. I want to be the happy person celebrating a 50th or 75th anniversary; I don’t want to waste a single minute!
So many people are afraid to let go of their youth. They are partying well into their 20s or even 30s, refusing to settle down, determined to get in as much “action” as possible, but what they don’t realize is that one day they may be lying in bed next to someone they love counting the years they might have left together, and that number will just keep getting smaller and smaller as time goes on. The longer you wait to appreciate the people you have in your life the less special memories you will be able to make together. Don’t wait until 10 years from now to realize how much you care about someone that could be gone tomorrow. Grab their arm and hold them tight, and forget about the dirty dishes and the bad jokes and the silly advice.
Repeat after me, “I am a pancake addict.” Time to enter a 12 step program? No way! You can have pancakes AND abs (Really, you can!) The key is to make homemade pancakes from scratch, not a box of that just-add-water nonsense. I make pancakes several times a week (breakfast, brunch, lunch, dinner, dessert- any time is a good time for pancakes) and it only takes a few minutes to whip up a homemade batter. I have a handful of go-to pancake recipes but I always make them my own (and healthier) by changing up, adding, and subtracting a few ingredients. This recipe in particular I tried for the first time yesterday and it was really a “What will happen if I throw this in there and leave this out” kind of thing, and my 2 year old daughter and I loved them so much we made them for lunch again today! *And the mom of the year award goes to….* haha
All out of sugar and syrup? No problem! These pancakes are so full of flavor you don’t need any added sweetness.
Vegan Chocolate Chip Pumpkin Banana Oat Pancakes:
*1 ripe banana
*1/4 cup pumpkin puree
*1t baking powder
*1/2t ground cinnamon
*1 flax egg (1T ground flaxseed meal, 3T water)
*pinch salt (I used pink Himalayan salt)
*1/2t vanilla extract
*1T oil (canola, coconut, whatever kind you have on hand!)
*4T soy milk (or almond/coconut/flax/rice)
*1/2 cup oats
*1/4 cup flour (unbleached- no one wants to eat bleach)
*3T semi-sweet chocolate chips (vegan)
Make flax egg, let sit in fridge for 5 minutes.
Add remaining ingredients.
Spray warmed griddle with oil.
Drop pancake batter on griddle.
Flip once edges start bubbling.
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Smoothies are a must-have in my house; I love them, my kids love them, and it’s a great way for me to sneak some veggies and fruit into everyone! Plus it’s Summer, and smoothies are a great way to cool down.
I hate taking vitamins and rarely actually eat the recommended amount of fruit and vegetables in a day, and some days I’m just too darn busy to make sure I’m getting enough protein, so I’m a big fan of vegan chocolate Shakeology. This past month I ordered tropical strawberry because it sounded a little more Summery, but I still had a little bit of vegan chocolate leftover. After a full month it finally occurred to me: WHY NOT MIX THEM?! And BOOM, chocolate covered smoothies were born. This is a recipe you absolutely must try. My 2 year old and I finished our smoothies in less than 5 minutes flat, it was that good! And hey, maybe add some fresh/frozen strawberries and/or a banana! I didn’t have any in the house today, otherwise I would have!
Chocolate Covered Strawberry Smoothie Recipe:
1. Pour 8oz of cold water in your blender.
2. Add 4-5 ice cubes (depending on the size of your ice tray and how thick you like your smoothies).
I dropped the ball. Yesterday was Father’s Day and I wasn’t as prepared as I thought I was. I spent the past month looking at cards, thinking of thoughtful things to write in the cards, making lists of possible gifts, shopping for gifts, and researching local restaurants who offer not only brunch but also vegan brunch items. After having very little luck finding a decent vegan brunch menu I decided to just leave it up to my significant other to decide what we were going to do for breakfast; after all, it was his day, not mine. Father’s Day morning came and I asked, “What do you want for breakfast?” His answer? Let’s just say it was not a green smoothie, protein pancakes, or a tofu scramble. So after a breakfast of sugar, oil, and more sugar I asked, “What should we do today?” We decided to take a chance and bring our kids to Fantasy Island for the first time despite the rainy start to the day. Since this was a last minute decision and we were in a rush to try and get in as much family fun before the next downpour I did not go prepared. I didn’t bring apples or raisins or sandwiches or Shakeology or anything else that could save us from our next bad decision. On the plus side I did pack a bottle of water (small victories). After a couple hours of basking in sun and walking (and spinning) in circles we got hungry. I had to face a decision: Leave the park after such a short time or find something to eat in the park. Have you ever tried to find vegetarian food in an amusement park? No? Let me tell you your options: French fries, nachos, popcorn, cotton candy, or fried dough. “Ummmmm I’ll take the deep fried corn and the deep fried potatoes please.” Okay, we’re off to a rough start, but hey, we can still walk it off and have a healthy dinner! WRONG! Dinner plans involve pizza and juice! There comes a point in the day where you just call it. You’ve made one mistake after another and there’s no turning back. The best you can do is stuff your cheeks with edamame before bed like a squirrel preparing for winter, but you won’t because you’re just too darn tired.
Why am I telling you this? Because I want you to know I am human. I have days where I start the day with donuts and end it with cookies, more days than I care to admit. Last year I would have days like yesterday and I would repeat that for a week or a month- I would binge! I’d give myself 100 reasons why I didn’t need to be “Skinny” and I would just let it go. Then eventually a lightbulb would go off (or a pants button would pop) and I would put my foot down and cut out everything. I would starve and deprive myself and I would find myself working out so often that I was even doing standing crunches in the shower. It was an unhealthy cycle of self hatred and deprivation until I decided enough was enough. I clearly couldn’t do this alone. The funny thing is my job is to motivate people, to keep them on track, to hold them accountable, to inspire them to make healthy choices and change their lives doing so, but really my team is what keeps ME on track, what motivates ME to make healthy choices and push past these bad days. That’s what I love about having a team; we are all helping each other. I may be the coach but a coach can’t do much without her team. As for how I am going to make up for yesterday: I’m going to have a green smoothie for lunch and plenty of veggies and fruits for dinner and for snacks throughout the day. I’m also going to get a good workout in. I’m not going to starve and I’m not going to obsess over yesterday. I got to spend a lovely day with my family and you can bet next time I will come prepared with healthy snacks. 😉
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Last week I was able to bring my family on the best vacation of my life so far, and after having two kids I was able to rock my new bikini! I have a ton of stretch marks and my abs are still hidden under a little bit of extra skin but I worked HARD for this body and I am proud of how far I have come. Don’t give up on your goals; it drives me crazy to hear moms say that they will never wear a bikini again/be a size _ again/fit in their favorite clothes again/etc. Believe you can and you WILL! However, my journey is not over, and it never will be! Healthy is a lifestyle, not a diet. My Bikini Boot Camp challenge group starts July 1st and I will be kicking butt with Hip Hop Abs! If you want to kick butt with me I urge you to join my challenge group to get the body you deserve and to make a healthy change!